Gene's take on this...
I recently received this e-mail from one of my readers. “Why should I work with you instead of some other practitioner? And really why should I hire someone anyway because there are so may free resources on line?”
I e-mailed back explaining that I have found working with someone else to be very beneficial even for someone like me who regularly works with clients. Here are the four reasons why I work with a practitioner:
There is more to Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)/tapping than just knowing the tapping points and the set up phrases. The basic recipe is a great place to start and for most people it is the only tapping tool they are going to need. But there are going to be times when the basic recipe is not enough to quickly knock out an issue.
For example, tapping is great for dealing with cravings, but it might take a very long time to knock out the root cause of the craving by only tapping on the symptom of the craving. Because of the training a qualified practitioner has, they are going to be able to quickly get to the core of an issue like this. They are going to more than likely knock out the issue in just one session.
I think Gary Craig’s assertion that the basic recipe is enough to take care of any issue is correct, but for some issues there are much faster ways of healing. By working with a skilled practitioner their expertise is going to speed the healing process.
One of the benefits of working with an experienced practitioner is knowing that they have been down this road before and they are not going to be surprised by the possible outcomes.
I can remember the first time with a tapping client where there was a very unexpected jump. We were doing some work on a craving and all of a sudden we were talking about a very traumatic event from the client’s childhood. Even though this jump was something that was unexpected, because of the training and experience I had with age regression from my hypnosis training, it didn’t catch me off guard.
An experienced practitioner is going be able to work with many different issues and know how to deal with something that is unexpected. In addition to being able to work with the unexpected, they are also going to be able to know when they are in over their head. I think knowing when you are not qualified to work with something is a very important skill to have. Experience doesn’t guarantee that a practitioner has learned this skill, but they are more likely to understand this precaution.
One of the great skills that any practitioner has isn’t really a skill at all. The simple fact that they are not caught up in the client’s emotions means that the practitioner is going to see the situation much more clearly.
This is the reason we go to our friend for advice. Sometimes we even seek advice from friends in areas that we know more about than they do, but we know that their outside point of view is going to see things we can’t. I have had client sessions where I was able to help a client heal and transform with one simple observation.
I was recently working with a client who has been dealing with Lyme disease for a number of years. While tapping on how his body was dealing with it I suggested, “Maybe the system is trying as hard as it can and it is just really tired. That is why it is not being as successful as it could be.”
He said, “Wow! That is a completely new way of looking at this. I have been so mad at my body for not doing better. It never crossed my mind that it was really trying hard and that I need to support its work. I need to stop beating it up.”
The interesting thing about this exchange was right before I made my observation he had described his body as being like a damp, rung out rag. I just took his metaphor and said it back to him in new words. My distance from the situation provided the insight.
There is a second way that distance serves a good practitioner. When working with someone else it frees you from having to think about how to deal with an issue and deal with the issue at the same time. This came to my attention with a recent client.
To start a tapping session we did a simple exercise that I like to call “clearing the decks.” It is a very simple few rounds of tapping where we tune into the whole constellation of emotions they are feeling in the moment, we thank the emotions for doing their job, and we let them know they have been heard. By doing this we end up with a much clearer head to tune in to the issue we want to work on.
After a few minutes of tapping I asked my client how she felt. She replied, “I feel much more calm. I try to do that exercise all the time, but I can’t seem to get the same effect. When you lead me through that I can just tap and not give it any thought. It is much easier to relax when that is the case.”
It is so much easier to focus on one thing. When working with someone else, we don’t have to worry about how we are going to deal with an issue. We can just sit back, tap along, and let the practitioner guide us.
If there weren’t resistance we would have already made the change. Resistance is a fact of life. There are lots of reasons why we don’t do the tapping we need to do or why we don’t do it as completely as we could. It can be scary to do the work on our own. It can be uncomfortable to tune in to negative emotions. There are a million other things that we need to do.
By working with someone else we are creating an accountability structure to increase our progress. First, when we are working with someone else they can help us to push through the resistance. We are more likely to do our daily tapping when we know we are going to have to report to someone else in our next sessions. A good practitioner is going to push us (gently) to look at aspects we wouldn’t be brave enough to look at on our own. Finally, the practitioner is going to keep looping back over the same issue again and again to make sure we have taken care of all the aspects when we might stop work a little sooner on our own.
Not For Everyone and Not For Every Issue
One of the reasons I love tapping is because it puts an amazing tool at everyone’s disposal. There are going to be times when we all need (myself included) to reach out to a skilled professional to help us move through an issue quickly and safely.